Down the Rabbit Hole I Go

The first thing to go is the memory. Or the knees. Sometimes both at once.

In my case, it’s definitely memory. While some aspects of life in my 20s stand out very clearly, others are more…muddled. And what I’m increasingly discovering is that things I swore happened one way—or in such a such a month—actually did not, as backed up by photographic proof.

And while it could be that those photographs are nothing more than a glitch in the Matrix, I find it far easier to believe that I just got it wrong and it’s a glitch in my matrix.

I don’t exactly remember how I got there or what I was searching for, but last week I found myself knee-deep in the online archives of Arizona State University; more specifically, their collection of Arizona gay rags from the 70s onward.

The collection is far from complete, but reading the smattering of articles and opinion pieces pointed out exactly how far we’ve come as a community and our standing in society at large in the last 50 years.

It was also a wonderful trip down memory lane.

Phoenix Gay Bars/Bookstores, October 1979
Tucson Gay Bars/Businesses, October 1979

(Click either to embiggen.)

Seeing the ads and logos from all these long-gone establishments especially brought me back.










And then there was the card shop on 7th whose name I was searching for a few weeks ago…

…where I bought this treasure in 1983:

Done by a probably local artist, “C. Ruth”, it thought it was adorable. I loved the colors, I loved the subject matter, and while my partner at the time, Dennis, didn’t have a beard, he was a ginger…

Frankly, I’m amazed that it’s survived the 24 moves it’s gone through since then.

But I digress.

Lastly, who could forget this information-packed reference? Kids wonder how we met up before the internet? This is how.

(I never bought one. Six dollars was a lot of money back for me in 1979; it was an hour’s work!)

I decided to enlist Google Maps to see what now stood on these once-hallowed locations.

To say it was a sobering experience would be an understatement. While I knew instinctively that the bars came and went even back then, it was still disheartening to see that so many were now just vacant lots, or had been torn down to make way for new strip malls and condo/apartment complexes.

Interestingly, the one bar that still remains in business and at its original location is the Nu-Towne Saloon; the one bar I have never visited. Back in the day it was “way out east” and basically surrounded by little more than open desert. Now it’s surrounded by development and doesn’t seem nearly so far east as it once did.

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Are People Really This Stupid?

Yes, Virginia. Yes they are.

From scenes at packed airports to the much more intimate specter of Ben’s father hosting his his business-as-usual Thanksgiving family brunch, I cannot comprehend why people are insisting on gathering today as if everything is normal. As if the number of cases of COVID aren’t already going through the roof, I fully expect a HUGE spike in January.

I mean seriously, what are they thinking? Are they so selfish and concerned with tradition and their supposed “rights,” they’re willing to put Aunt Zelda on a ventilator in 8 weeks? Will this truly be the threat my mother used to hang over my head when I was living out-of-state, “This may be the last Thanksgiving you see your grandparents alive, so you better damn well be here.”

BTW, Ben and I both politely refused his dad’s (last-minute, but that’s another story altogether) invitation.

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WEAR A FUCKING MASK

I’m all for a national mask mandate. Look, I hate wearing the things as much as anyone, but wearing them (along with a proven vaccine that reaches 90% of the population) is the only way we’re going to make it through this.

So do your part. And remember…masks can be very sexy.















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Flashback Friday





El Torero Restaurant, Tucson AZ, June 2007

I’ve been going here since I was in college, and even though I haven’t lived in Tucson since 1985, it’s always a must-stop location for dining whenever I’m in town.

Now I want some patty tacos.

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Liberating Arrakis

Let’s hope it works out better for House Biden in the long run than it did for the  Atreides…

But seriously, do you remember the scene where Thufir Hawat was in a panic because they kept discovering hidden listening devices? That came to mind last night as I was mulling the Bidens moving into the White House. But you’ve got to figure that the place will be swept for Russian listening devices after Trump is dragged out…right?

And Trump, being the man-baby narcissist he is, will undoubtedly trash as much as he can on his way out the door. “If I can’t have it, NO ONE will!” It’s already been confirmed by multiple sources that he’s doing as much to fuck up  international relations as possible in hopes of confounding Biden.

Trouble is, Trump has no idea who he’s messing with. Biden’s team is playing four-dimensional chess, while Trump is simply taking sitting on a checkerboard taking a shit.

I also recommend that the Secret Service pat down Lady Be Best for the house silver, because you know that crime family is going to attempt to steal anything that isn’t nailed down.

And lastly, please replace ALL the mattresses in the White House before anyone from Biden’s team sleeps there. You know they’re urine soaked…

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