You never have to justify not sleeping with someone, even if you're attracted to them.

So you sure as hell don't need to justify not sleeping with someone you're not attracted to. And that includes someone you may have initially been attracted to, but changed your mind later due to personality, compatibility or any other reason.

You don't owe anyone your sexual attraction, initial or ongoing.

The entire point of the gay rights movement, for gay, bi and, yes, straight women and men too, was that who you are or are not attracted to, who your consenting adult partners are, is nobody else's damn business.

That hasn't changed.

Anyone trying to tell you otherwise is as regressive and authoritarian as the sanctimonious bigots the gay rights movement fought against the first time around. That now includes former gay advocacy groups such as Stonewall UK, HRC and Pink News, which have abandoned recognition of same-sex attraction entirely as a matter of mere "genital preference." Using pretentious academic jargon doesn't change that any more than using pietistic scriptural proclamations.

Relieve yourself of the cultural panic of being called a bigot. It's no different than being called a sinner; it's only meaningful if you subscribe to their ideology.

And anyway, Queer Theorists endorse pedophilia and bestiality, so you're very far from being on the moral back foot.

Whether you're gay, bi or straight, be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual guiltlessly.

Can someone explain this to me like I'm a 5-year old?