You never have to justify not sleeping with someone, even if youā€™re attracted to them.

So you sure as hell donā€™t need to justify not sleeping with someone youā€™re not attracted to. And that includes someone you may have initially been attracted to, but changed your mind later due to personality, compatibility or any other reason.

You donā€™t owe anyone your sexual attraction, initial or ongoing.

The entire point of the gay rights movement, for gay, bi and, yes, straight women and men too, was that who you are or are not attracted to, who your consenting adult partners are, is nobody elseā€™s damn business.

That hasnā€™t changed.

Anyone trying to tell you otherwiseĀ is as regressive and authoritarian as the sanctimonious bigots the gay rights movement fought against the first time around. That now includes former gay advocacy groups such as Stonewall UK, HRC and Pink News, which have abandoned recognition of same-sex attraction entirely as a matter of mere ā€œgenital preference.ā€ Using pretentious academic jargon doesnā€™t change that any more than using pietistic scriptural proclamations.

Relieve yourself of the cultural panic of being called a bigot. Itā€™s no different than being called a sinner; itā€™s only meaningful if you subscribe to their ideology.

And anyway, Queer Theorists endorse pedophiliaĀ and bestiality, so youā€™re very far from being on the moral back foot.

Whether youā€™re gay, bi or straight, be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual guiltlessly.

Can someone explain this to me like I’m a 5-year old?