
Apologies
A few days ago, after forwarding the Remembering World AIDS Day graphic I posted to a friend, she wrote back and asked if I knew the men whom I’d named. “Of course,” I said. “That’s why I created that image.”
She’s a retired nurse, and had no idea that AIDS had touched my life so intimately. I told her I’d written at length about a lot of those men and went about locating the relevant blog posts to forward to her.
What this little exercise did was show me how often I’ve repeated myself on this blog over the years. I suppose it happens. Something captures my attention and I write, not realizing that I’d written about the same damn thing years earlier.
So as I get older and my memory will no doubt get even worse, if I end up repeating myself ad nauseum, I beg your indulgence. As my dad used to say, “Getting old is hell.” (I know I’ve quoted him on this many times in posts.)
Reminds Me Of Certain Men



This Man…

played

and

but also

and let’s not forget

and of course

But I will ALWAYS see him as

We Were Lied To
Computer technology will make our lives easier. Social Media will bring us together.
In reality, computers have complicated our lives in ways unimaginable, and nowhere is that more obvious when you’re called upon to troubleshoot issues with friends and family. Phone trees. Password resets. Hacking. Phishing. Goddamned fucking printers. Bluetooth headphones. Wireless. Routers. Hot spots. Is the convenience of being able to turn off your porch light from the comfort of your bed really worth the aggravation that invariably accompanies setting up/maintaining the devices needed for that to work? And then there’s the computers themselves. Our entire lives (mine included) are now wrapped up in these slabs of glass and aluminum and silicon and when they don’t work like their creators promised us they would, our collective blood pressure goes through the roof.
Let’s not overlook the currently beyond-toxic hellstew of Social Media. Instead of bringing people together, platforms like Twitter have done nothing but divide us. There’s no common ground and if left unabated, it’s not going to be long before any sort of civil public discourse will seem as quaint as the horse and buggy. Everything is now my way or the highway, and those unfortunate folks who in the past would’ve been seen standing on a street corner screaming at buildings or medicated and receiving treatment for their mental illness are now given free reign to spew their crazy across the internet. It may be hyperbolic to say that Social Media will destroy civilization, but in its current incarnation, it’s doing precious little to foster it.

Nick Jonas Got Married…
…to a woman.

“I felt a great disturbance in the Force, as if millions of gay men suddenly cried out in anguish and then collapsed in uncontrollable sobbing. I fear something terrible has happened.”
Is This Heaven?

Whatsoever a Man Soweth, That Shall He Also Reap
Or as my Ben tells his students, “Actions have consequences.”


Fuck you, Tumblr.
Tumblr Commits Suicide

RIP, Tumblr.
I have more than enough pictures of nekkid men—either alone or doing things with other men that can cause spontaneous erections in sex-loving gay men and sanctimonious hypocritical Republicans—in my offline collection to continue posting and keeping visiting porn-dogs happy for years, but this is troubling for a variety of reasons and finding new content to share is going to be more difficult, because pretty much all the menz I’ve posted have come from Tumblr.
Also, I expect you won’t be able to access my blog at all using Starbucks wifi come the first of the year either—at least not without using a VPN. (Y’all ARE using a VPN while connected on any public wifi, right?)
If you have a Tumblr account, you can download all your content by going to https://www.tumblr.com/settings/blog/your-blog-name and select Export. Due to increased traffic on the site in the wake of today’s news, it may take hours for it to process.
If you just want to save videos directly that you’ve posted or reposted, use this link. (The site can be a bit glitchy if you’re attempting to capture from protected blogs, so you’ll need to use the link to the comments that’s on your site.)
I Guess They Do

To Absent Friends ?

Released 39 Years Ago Today
Pink Floyd: The Wall (1979)
A Certain Aesthetic




















Gratuitous Josh Dallas





Nice guns Josh, but the photographer knew exactly which of your features he wanted to highlight with the lighting on that last shot. Yowsah.

I Am Incorrigible

A Question for My Readers

Amazingly Accurate
Culled from a series of tweets by the Hoarse Whisperer:
I understand narcissistic personality disorder like the back of my hand. Trump is as familiar as an old movie, so let me share some intel. People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) seem erratic but they’re actually ultra-predictable. They are simple machines. There are only two driving impulses: 1) Avoid shame and 2) Collect adoration and esteem. That’s it. There is no other priority or concern. Trump will do anything humanly possible to try to avoid being publicly shamed/diminished in others’ eyes. It’s an impulse he can’t control. Take Russia/Putin. If Trump were to acknowledge Russia interfered, he’d be admitting he was less worthy of the presidency. Donald Trump would literally sell out his entire family and the country as well to avoid acknowledging that he didn’t deserve the office. He is pathologically incapable of doing anything which admits to the world his worst internal fear: he’s unworthy of being seen as special. Now, he has no choice on how he has to play this. He HAS to actually make Putin look worthy of partnership. He has to make the shameful thing, look unshameful somehow. He has to make shameful hacking and potential collusion somehow seem smart or purposeful or dignified. It cannot be done. It makes no logical sense. It will fall apart and as it does, Trump’s behavior and lying will get more outlandish. But make no mistake, Donald Trump is clinically incapable of doing anything other than what he is doing: trying to avoid the shame of being discovered to be illegitimate and unworthy of public respect. He has an uncontrollable compulsion to avoid that awful truth. No matter how absurd each new action or lie sounds, he’ll throw even his own family under the bus until there is no way out and then he will first explode on everyone and everything around him when he realizes there is no escape. It will be the crazy tweetstorm to end all tweetstorms and then he’ll either a) implode in a miserable ball of self-loathing and flee or concoct some attempt at a face-saving exit, claiming he’s too good for the job or that he’s protesting the “deep state.” It’ll be transparent bullshit that none but the most loco Trumpers believe but he will take it to the grave, swearing it’s true. The key thing to remember in watching Trump is that there are literally only two things going on in his mind at all times: 1) Fight to the death to avoid being seen as shameful or underserving of public adoration 2) Doing whatever it takes to make the people right in front of him think he’s powerful, important and special. That’s it. Donald Trump is an empty shell. You need do no more than ask “what shame is he trying to avoid?” and you’ll understand his every move.
A Certain Aesthetic




















The Pendulum Effect
Gratuitous James Wolk

Shower Thoughts
Last week someone died trying to convince a stone age tribe to believe in iron age mythology. Today we landed a spaceship on another planet.
Amazing
Angel City Choir: Africa
Released 35 Years Ago Today
Eurythmics: Touch (1983)
(Very) Late to the Party

Even though the film came out sixteen years ago, I’d never seen The Hours in full until today. I ran across the soundtrack sometime during 2005 while browsing at the public library and it became my go-to writing music for quite a while, without ever really knowing the story behind it. (I love all things Philip Glass so that point was moot.)
Several months ago I noticed it playing on IFC one day while channel surfing, but it was nearly over so I set the DVR to record the next showing. I attempted to watch thereafter but I fell asleep halfway through. (It wasn’t the movie’s fault; I was exhausted.)
Today I started it over and watched the whole thing. All I can say is “Wow.”
I’ll leave it to a review I found online that mirrors my own feelings about the film:
“…it is impossible to fault at any level: Acting, dialogue, costumes, locations, soundtrack, scenery, settings or storyline.
“Films like this don’t come along too often–beautifully made in an almost understated way, it relates to no major event or cataclysm, it chronicles no turning-point in history and it poses no worrying conundrum for the future. It is simply a quietly-told story that will criss-cross between various points in time and take you deep into the characters’ emotions and portray the effect that they have on their lives. When you have seen and come to understand the events that take place, by the time it concludes it will leave you feeling refreshed and perhaps a little better in touch with the emotions in your own life–just like good films should, but sadly, so rarely do…
Easily 9 out of 10–If you watch this one, you will not regret the time spent.”
Unintended Consequences
For those of you who’ve seen the final episode of AHS: Apocalypse…

I beg to differ on the point of Cordelia not getting sick. According to AHS canon, when a new Supreme rises, the existing Supreme must die. Since we know Mallory proves herself to be the next Supreme, Cordelia will–at some point–have to die.
I’m Going to Hell

“The girls just bet me that you wouldn’t suck me off to get these 50-yard-line tickets to Sunday’s game. Prove ’em wrong, buddy. Right here, right now.”
Gratuitous Alex Rich






I Am Incorrigible



