


In Other Words, They’ll Cut a Bitch

Released 32 Years Ago Today
Pet Shop Boys: Actually (1987)
Taking Matters Into My Own Hands
Since HBO took their sweet time issuing an official soundtrack from last year’s Sharp Objects—and then with only a meager assortment of the music used in the show—I decided to put my own together.
The task was made easier because Popsugar provided what was supposedly the definitive list of all the music used in the series’ eight episodes.
So between Popsugar, the official release playlist, YouTube, and the magic of Audio Hijack and Adobe Audition, I’ve created my own soundtrack.
365 Days of UNF: Day 250

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365 Days of UNF: Day 249

Friday

Four day weeks that start on Tuesday are the absolute worst.
The Orange Skidmark’s Presidency Summed Up in One Photo

Okay!


Stories – The College Years (Part 4)
Previously on Battlestar Galactica…
A Mentor Arrives
After Ric disappeared and we’d gone our separate ways, I would be lying if I said the rest of the semester was filled with sweet romantic interludes—or at least hot monkey sex, because it most certainly was not. That’s not to say I didn’t fall in love—or at least lust—with two more individuals, both of whom occasionally popped in at Louie’s, but were far from regulars.
The first was a Hispanic boy named Jesse.
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Jesse and I were friendly, but he barely knew I existed. And yet, at 18 years old, I fawned over him. I remember sharing some writing I’d done about him with another friend at the table, James Uhrig. James, who was older and wiser than I was…kind…in his assesment of my musings, but suggested that perhaps I move on.
Kent Kelly
It was around that time that Kent Kelly and Peter Whitman entered my orbit. Kent was the catalyst that caused me to move on from Jesse. Peter and I immediately became best friends. I think Kent—also older and wiser by a couple years—sensed my fragile, newly-minted gay state, and very gently let me down when I confessed my feelings for him. It didn’t make it sting any less, but I respected him for it, and out of that grew a friendship which lasted until his death in 1987.

Kent became my mentor, my friend, and my dance partner; my Life Teacher if truth be told. After I quit school in 1978, Kent ended up in Phoenix with me, proclaiming that Tucson had simply gotten too small—or more likely as I suspected he’d simply slept with everyone he’d been interested in sleeping with there.

Shortly before the semester ended, I arrived at Louie’s one afternoon and found the table abuzz. Ric was apparently at Student Health with a case of Hepatitis and they’d advised everyone who’d had sexual relations with him during the previous few months to get a Gamma globulin shot.
Needless to say, I was more than a little surprised at the number of us who got up from the table and formed a little parade that headed over to Student Health. Not as surprised, I’m sure, as the staff at the center was…
Apparently Ric was the table’s resident Welcome Wagon.
I returned home at the end of the semester, leaving all my new friends behind and wondering what the hell I was going to do, not only for summer work but also with my new gay life in general. My 19th birthday was quickly approaching, so I decided to say fuck it and invite everyone up to my parents’ house for an impromptu party. Not exactly how I envisioned coming out, but if they figured things out, they figured things out.
I think—based on that article he’d sent months earlier—Dad knew what was up, and arranged for he and Mom to be out of the house that night. My sister was having a sleepover at a friend’s house.
Phil (the man who initially welcomed me into GSA) arrived on his motorcycle the afternoon prior to the party. Since no one else was showing up until the following day, he and I headed out (not on his motorcycle) to the local mall.
As we walked the mall, Phil freely ogling boys as they passed like a dog in heat and whispering salacious suggestions in my ears, by the time we got back to the house I was…aroused…to say the least. He tried to put the moves on me in my bedroom, but I rebuffed his advances. That was not the way I intended to come out to the family.
Phil was an expert at the art of seduction, and while it didn’t happen that weekend, he did eventually bed me. Or maybe it was the other way around. It doesn’t matter. He and I had many an overnight encounter until he moved to San Mateo in 1980.
As an aside, I briefly reconnected with Phil (not that way—although to be honest, prior to him actually showing up at my door that afternoon I’d fantasized about it) once in 1992 long after I’d moved to San Francisco. I didn’t pursue anything phyiscal or even reigniting the friendship because something just seemed off, and frankly it creeped me out.
Next time on Battlestar Galactica…
Thought for Today

Quote of the Day


Feel a sudden urge to go somewhere?
365 Days of UNF: Day 248

Released 40 Years Ago Today
Grace Jones: Muse (1979)
So This Happened
Until a little over a year ago, my high blood pressure was under control. Then my ankles started swelling, and it was traced back to one medication in particular that I’d been successfully taking with no side effects for the last ten years.
My PCP took me off of it and switched me over to another. My ankles returned to normal, but then I noticed my numbers slowly started creeping up. Concerned, I paid another visit to my PCP about two months ago. and my BP in the office was something like 185/90. She was not happy about this and gave me a couple Clonidine. That brought the pressure down (and nearly put me to sleep on the drive home, unfortunately). She added another medication (not Clonidine) to my daily regimen and referred me to a cardiologist.
The cardiologist at first didn’t want to change up any of the meds. You need to lose weight and cut out salt, blah, blah, blah. I told him I never added salt to anything and he replied with a very curt, “Do you eat anything that would rot if you left it sitting out for more than a day?” I said of course. We all do. “All processed food is full of sodium.” In the end, he agreed to make one small change, swapping out one diuretic for another.
So Ben and I started walking in the evening and he—very reluctantly—stopped salting our shared meals while cooking. My pressures weren’t getting any better, so I emailed the cardiologist and said, “Look…my numbers are still super high and this is unacceptable. Can you either put me back on what I was originally taking (I’ll deal with the ankles) or try me on something else…even if it is more expensive and has some annoying side effect?”
So two weeks ago he put me on 400mg of Labetolol twice a day. It worked. In fact, it worked too well, so I cut back the dosage. Once I did that the numbers started creeping back up and were now just as bad as they were before I went on the drug to begin with, even though I was back on the originally prescribed dosage. I emailed again (because I’m not due to see him until November) and told him what was going on.
Yesterday afternoon I started developing a headache as I was driving home from work. By the time I got home it was somewhere between a 5 and 6 on the Richter scale. When I got home I took a couple aspirin and fixed a snack. I got a third of the way into said snack and the headache shot up to a 10. I broke out in a sweat and became so nauseated I thought I was going to throw up. The whole thing felt like food poisoning to me—something I’ve dealt with more than once so it’s not like I don’t know the symptoms. While I was trying to figure out what I ate at lunch that might’ve triggered this (because it’s almost always what you ate before the last thing you’ve put in your stomach), I decided to check my BP.
Holy fucking shitballs, Batman! 220/110.
So TLDR, once Ben got home we headed to the E.R. where I was tested and actually treated like a human being for a change by some of the best E.R. staff I have dealt with (at least since I actually worked in a hospital and everyone there knew me): IV hydration, EKG, blood tests, an analgesic for the headache, a bit of Benadryl, and a dose of Clonidine. Blood tests and EKG both came back normal. And while I was fighting to stay awake when all was said and done, I was feeling much better by the time they released me.
And I finally heard from my cardiologist while we were waiting to be seen. He wants me to double up on one of the other medications.
The BP was 140/77 this morning. Let’s hope that holds and it isn’t just leftover Clonodine in my system…
My Latest Acquisition


Matt Drey Presents DSP: From Russia With Love (1999) (2 disk EP)
● Original Mix
● Oliver Lieb Remix
● Solar Stone Red City Remix
● Solar Stone Blue Remix
Been in love with this one since I first heard it in the early 00’s on Ibiza Euphoria, but never thought to look for it on the original vinyl.
PSA

365 Days of UNF: Day 247

Quote of the Day
There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” ~ Albert Einstein
365 Days of UNF: Day 246

Political Discourse Today

Because you can’t have calm discussions with Nazis…

I Think We All Are at This Point

Does That Make Him a Bad Father?

Well, DUH!

I’m Going To Hell


